Constructive Criticism is Necessary for Improvement

He who heeds instruction and correction is [not only himself] in the way of life [but also] is a way of life for others. And he who neglects or refuses reproof [not only himself] goes astray [but also] causes to err and is a path toward ruin for others. — Proverbs 10: 17

 Listening to constructive criticism is easier said than done. No one likes to have others point out their flaws, let alone be told how to correct them. But constructive criticism goes beyond the simple need to criticize and you need to know the distinction.

Criticism, jealousy, and mean-spirited behavior often come in the guise of constructive criticism from a person who envies you or needs to tear someone else down to make themselves feel or look good. However, true constructive criticism comes from people who have the genuine desire to share knowledge that will help you, whether they know you well or not, without any secondary motive. Ask God for a spirit of discernment to help you distinguish between these two types of messages. If you have a difficult time accepting and applying constructive criticism, start by finding a few good mentors you admire and can trust. Surrounding yourself with people who have been where you are, think highly of you and have your best interests at heart will help take the sting out of the criticism.

Questions for reflection:

(If I don’t have any mentors) Who can I ask to mentor me and correct me?

(If I have identified mentors) What can I do today to build my relationship with my mentors?

 How can I make sure I am open to constructive criticism?

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